In the past, I have used the week of Valentine’s Day to address issues that may arise when co-workers have an intimate relationship. Last week’s revelations by David Letterman that he had an affair with a CBS intern suggests, however, that a reminder regarding the dangers of these relationships is needed.

 

Let me be plain and to the point: At work, supervisors must not have intimate relationships with subordinates. It’s an abuse of authority.  And such affairs may give rise to sexual harassment suits, thereby costing an employer millions of dollars in legal fees. Don’t do it.

 

Similarly, a subordinate should avoid becoming intimately involved with a supervisor. Despite every best effort, these relationships rarely are kept secret. As other employees become aware of the relationship, rightly or wrongly, assumptions will be made that plum assignments and even salary increases are given to the subordinate because of the relationship instead of knowledge and ability. A subordinate’s close relationship with the boss may poison relationships with other co-workers.

 

Battles between the head and heart have been fought throughout the millennia.  At work, ensure the head stays in command, and avoid messy office relationships. Despite the late night jokes, these relationships are no laughing matter.