• February 11, 2009  |  5:42 PM MST

Cupid @ Work

• At the very beginning of the relationship, establish a clear agreement regarding how to best manage the relationship inside and outside the office. Call it an office fling pre-nup if you want. Just spell out as many details as possible. Will you regularly eat lunch together?  Dinner? What’s an appropriate number of phone calls and e-mails per day? Will any of those communications refer to sex, either explicitly or implicitly? (By the way, remember that an employer may also read those e-mails.) And most importantly, should the relationship sour, how will you agree to put the feelings aside and interact with one another at work?
• Forego playing kissy face in the office. No one else wants to see it. In fact, save all open displays of affection for outside the office. And for heaven’s sake, never use the office nap room, reception area sofa, or Xerox machine for a workplace quickie.
• Be prepared to disclose the existence and nature of your relationship. If you and your partner are caught playing footsy over lunch in the office cafeteria, lots of co-workers will immediately jump to the conclusion that something other than work is being discussed. By letting others know about a relationship up front, you can put a stop to gossip and silly speculation.    
• Be prepared for the fact that lots of office flings don’t pan out.
• If your relationship falls apart, both parties must be prepared to move forward in a professional manner.    

Whether the relationship is disclosed or not, once co-workers believe that it exists, they will observe the office lovers’ each and every move. Especially if you are a supervisor or a manager, you will be held to a higher standard of fairness.